My Dream Gal...

Wow! It's been a VERY LONG time since I wrote here. Been quite busy with my attachments and trying to pass it. I thought the end of the attachments would be welcoming but it was only a trailer to an even worse phenomenon - exams. But, like my usual self, I seemed indifferent when faced with studying because my primate reactions to failure only sets in the day before the exams and I will struggle to stuff all the facts in while burning midnight oil, and I believe gallons of it. Anyway, while trying to study the notes, the voice of Liang Jingru had accompanied me day and night. Sometimes, I will stop my studying when a particular chorus struck a note in my heart. My close friends would know that whenever I like listening to a song, I would put it on repeat and hear it endlessly, to the annoyance of people around me. A particular song was constantly playing on the hi-fi, if not my brain. It was "Fen1 Shou3 Kuai4 Le4" by Liang Jingru.

A specific section of the lyrics hit me hard...it goes like this in English - "If you meet the right person, everyday is a Valentine's Day."I believe this question is in the mind of several people, including those in a relationship. This question is,"Have I found the right person?" Due to the different cultures and perspectives of people, everyone has a different criteria of their RIGHT PERSON. Some may range from the downright fantasy kind like Takuya Kimura to the other extreme of as long as having a face with all the features attached. Indeed, everyone has an image of a RIGHT PERSON in their mind and everyone is trying desperately hard to find someone who fits that criteria the closest.

I'm not going to criticise on how people manifest their image of the RIGHT PERSON or how to set realistic criterias for a future partner. I'm just going to share with you MY perspective of MY DREAM GAL!



Call me materialistic, but like other people in their teens, I yearned for a good-looking partner when I was younger, someone who looked like Noriko Sakai with a fair complexion and more importantly, her elegant demeanor. But, as the element of time caught up with me, my expectations dropped or should I say became more realistic. My life experiences had told me that people are more than what they looked like. But, at the same time, I also realised that you are the result of everything you believe in. For example, an outgoing sunny girl acts the way she is because she likes interacting with people and the environment. So, a general rule of thumb for me is I will observe a person's actions and extrapolate their thoughts and behaviours. The TOP CRITERIA my DREAM GAL should have is a HEART OF GOLD. I believe that every relationship serves to strengthen the essence of people involved in it. Therefore, MY DREAM GAL should be a kind-hearted and caring person, not only to me but also to people around her including strangers. However, I am aware of the effects of modernisation on the beliefs of MAN and this criteria is relatively hard to meet, given the impact money and status have on people.

The SECOND CRITERIA my DREAM GAL should have is a mind of her own, or in a word, INDEPENDENCE. Unlike the typical love scenario one can see in dramas, where the lovebirds are always within hearing distance from one another, and distance is always meant to be a killer for them, I am a strong believer of PRIVACY. Couples need not be together every waking hour and I believe this will only serve to deepen the mistrust between each other. In addition to that, I think that one should spent time alone to rejuvenate and think through critical issues of life. Only by cultivating this behaviour that a couple can realise how important the other half is when he or she is not around.

The THIRD CRITERIA my DREAM GAL should have is WISDOM. Just to make things clear for some with difficulty understanding the true meaning of wisdom, it is NOT the same as knowledge. Possessing wisdom requires one to make good judgement of things and that involves the practical application of knowledge into real life. This may be a reason why I tend to fall in love with people whom I perceive to be relatively mature compared to their peers.

All the above criterias I had mentioned were qualitative in nature, if you didn't realise. I believe this sets a solid foundation to being a GOOD-NATURED person and a good partner in a serious relationship. Unlike several of my peers who will be likely to jump into any relationship to "try out", I am looking for a life-long relationship with a person who is willing to be there for me when I need her. This requires a lot of discipline and commitment. I admit that there were times when I just wanted to get myself someone to experience a BGR but I realised the importance of a serious relationship through a terrible mistake I made, hurting a kind person in the process. I am willing to wait for that fateful day when GOD wills it and I shall meet with the GIRL of MY DREAMS...even better if she looks like Noriko Sakai! Meanwhile, I shall try to expand my social circle and hopefully in this effort, find my DREAM GAL in the midst of the endless ocean.